Entitled couple demand wedding party cook welcome dinner for destination wedding: 'The couple charged the bridesmaids for dinner'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Mar 30, 2026 9:00 PM EDT

Would you attend a wedding if you knew that you were going to be one of the catering staff as well as a guest?

We all know that planning a wedding is often a stressful affair, and this is not just a responsibility that affects the bride. Indeed, it is possible for everyone in the wedding party to feel the pressure when it comes to putting on a big day that is nothing short of perfect. A lot of people feel like getting married is something that has to be big and impressive, and everybody involved has to do everything they can to make sure that this happens. If they don't, they risk the kind of argument that a friendship may never recover from.

It is fair to say that people who get married can sometimes make wedding demands that are unreasonable. They get tunnel vision, and decide that anything they want makes sense to everybody around them. It can make being a wedding guest turn into something that is a chore, as opposed to an enjoyable experience. It goes against the whole idea that a wedding should be a celebration for everybody who is involved, and a time to enjoy oneself.

 

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  • In this story, a happy couple invited their guests to a destination wedding in southern Europe, planning a week of festivities for the bachelor and bachelorette. The busy vacations plans meant that the wedding party hoped for a day to recover before the wedding itself.

    Instead, the bride and groom decided to request that they cook the welcome dinner with the ingredients and recipes that were provided. In the end, the responsibility fell on the bridesmaids as the groomsmen went out with the groom. They were still charged for their share of the dinner.

  • Bride and groom expected the wedding party to cook the welcome dinner

    This happened a few years ago to a good friend of mine. She was a bridesmaid for her very close friend's destination wedding.
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  • The bachelor/bachelorette party was a full week, leading up to the day of the welcome dinner.
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  • After a week of drinking and activities. in the brutal heat (southern Europe in the middle of summer) everyone was looking forward to a day to recover and hydrate before the festivities started up again.
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  • But alas. The morning of the welcome dinner my friend receives a text announcing that the wedding party will be cooking dinner for the welcome dinner.
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  • How exciting!! And they would even be provided the recipes, can you imagine being so lucky?!
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  • Unfortunately the venue wouldn't allow them to use the catering kitchen, since, you know, they're not caterers, so they would have to use the guest kitchen.
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  • Of course all of the groomsmen were too hungover to help, and went day drinking with the groom instead.
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  • The poor bridesmaids tried their best, but ended up serving mostly snacks and charcuterie, I assume most the guests went to find a kebab afterwards.
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  • The most insane part to me, is that the couple still charged all of the bridesmaids for the welcome dinner.
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  • rzdrk I know a girl in a wedding that has "assignments." One of them is "make brunch for the wedding party!" for the morning after the wedding (in addition to making bouquets the day before, setting up the ceremony and reception, taking everything down, etc). Your bridal party are supposed to be your friends, why are couples treating them like the help??
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  • MommaOfManyCats Why did they even attempt anything? I'd just say I was too hungover. If it works for the guys, it works for me.
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  • MsSpicyO I hope those bridesmaids have finally found their backbones.
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  • Sufficient_Bass2600 Remind me when a colleague invited us to her wedding at a ridicilously low price £125 for the pleasure. /S. We could even claim a discount if we went with a plus one. Only £200 per couple. What a bargain!! Only one poor women went. After the party They tried to rope her into helping to clean up the venue. The following Monday the bride came to extort an extra £50 from her because cleaning did a poor job and the bride did not get her deposit back. Never heard such a quiet, mou
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  • Imaginary-Ad-8202 Why in the hell do people put up with this bullshit?
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  • Feisty-Donkey We pooled money and ordered pizza. You're welcome.
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  • absolutelyfatulous I was at a wedding where we sat down for dinner and the Master of Ceremonies announced that at each table, one person had an apron on the back of their chair. If you had an apron on your chair, put it on and you would be serving the food to your table. These guests had to put on an apron, go up and collect a platter of meat, veg, and potato, and dish it out to everyone at the table. It was so disorganised and the food ended up split extremely unfairly (I got no veg, a tiny pie
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  • Bubbly_Following7930 I wouldn't have made it to "week long bachelor party" much less cooking dinner.
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  • cakivalue Ohh no!! Oh hell no !gif
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  • Handbag_Lady Reminding dear readers here that no is a great word to use.
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